Monday, July 06, 2009

Manic Monday: What is Going on This Week?

A bit different this time as summer means that there is not a lot going on.  We fill the days up as we go along and I love it.  Here are the few things that are going on this week :).

Monday, July 6

  • Mikey - eye doctor appointment at 9:20 a.m.
  • Meeting friends at the beach immediately after the eye doctor appointment.

Tuesday, July 7

  • No plans at this point :)

Wednesday, July 8

  • Mikey with Glenda from 1:00-4:00.  I need to get some shopping for school related things done this afternoon.
  • Weigh in day - this will mark 2 weeks on plan.

Thursday, July 9

  • Going to Lethbridge to meet a friend for lunch.
  • Need to check Home Depot as I'm looking for a storage system that they never seem to have at the one here but have on their website.

Friday, July 10

  • No plans at this point.

Saturday, July 11

  • No plans at this point.

Sunday, July 12

  • No plans at this point.

Friday, July 03, 2009

Falling Off Friday: Finally on Track...

I'm happy to report that I'm finally on the path to losing weight and now weight 10 pounds less than I did just 3 short weeks ago.  I'm happy with the start that I've made. 

So for the next week I will continue to stick to my food plan, journal everything that I eat, exercise daily and drink lots of water.  Hopefully I will be reporting new weight loss to you in a post each Friday :).

Thursday, July 02, 2009

Thankful Thursday: July 2, 2009 Thankful 10

Its been a while but now with the lazy days of summer looming I have more time to post again so here it is :).

  1. For summer holidays.  I am so blessed to have these weeks to spend at home with Mikey.  I often feel that I have the best of both worlds because of the career that I have.
  2. For Mikey.  Alwyas for Mikey.  I still wonder every minute of the day as to why I've been so lucky to get the son that was perfect for me.
  3. For my friends.  I'm so fortunate to have such great friends.
  4. For my family and their continued to health.
  5. For the future... as I begin this weight loss journey for real, I can see a healthier future for both me and Mikey and hopefully for the child that will someday join our family.
  6. The sidewalks and pavement are finally done in front of the house.  Its going to be so great to not have to treck through mud and/or snow at certain parts of the year.  Its been a long wait and I'm so thankful its done.
  7. For the country I live in... as we celebrated Canada day yesterday. It truly is a wonderful county and I'm blessed to live in it.
  8. For a God that is always directing my life.  Its amazing how things always work out in the long run.
  9. For the students that I have the honor of teaching.  Each one of them brings something more to my life and for that I feel so lucky.  The world would not be the same without knowing each one of these individuals the way that I do.
  10. For our new support worker (Glenda).  She is so amazing with Mikey and its nice to have a bit of me time along the way.

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Summer Time!

The crazy month of June is almost over and I can once again reclaim my life!  Wanted to take a second to post so that I can get back in the habit of blogging.  It is nice to see this school year behind me and I'm looking forward to a fun, relaxing summer.

No big plans for the summer.  Mikey will be attending a couple of morning camps put on my local organizations (one through gymnastics and through the college) and we will be doing some short local trips and/or day trips but no large trips planned at this point.

Personally, I'm going to use the summer to get a good start on re-establishing a healthy life style - exercising, eating right, sleeping right, and starting to lose some of the weight I need to lose.  I'm hoping that come September I'm well on track and can keep it going.  I will also use the time to enjoy the moments with Mikey that seem to be gone all too fast.  I cannot believe that he will be entering grade 5 this fall.  It will potentially be his last year at the elementary school as our middle schools are grade 6-8 here.  We will see what the year bring as at this point I believe he should stay put for one more year beyond that.

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Saturday, May 23, 2009

Silly Saturday: Holding His Own

The other evening Mikey noticed a neighborhood friend out in the park in front of our house.  He promptly informed that he was going outside and away he went.  Over he ran to this little boy and started pushing him in the swing.  This little boy then ran to his house and came back with a stuffed animal.  They placed the stuff animal in the baby swing and one stood in front and one stood behind and they pushed the teddy bear back and forth.

And although I do let Mikey go outside to play with kids on his own, I must admit that I still stand at the window and watch his every move... ready at any second to run out the door if assistance is needed.  I figure he might be about 50 before I stop doing this (and that will only be because I will no longer be able to run out at that age).

They quickly tired of this game and moved on to a good old game of "you chase me".  The little boy ran around the playground equipment with the bear while Mikey ran after him trying to get the bear.  Mikey is pretty good on his feet but he did have difficulty keeping up with this game.  You could see he was getting tired of being the chaser and he wanted to be chased.  But try as he might he could not get the bear.

Mikey continued to smile and giggle and participate in the game.  Then suddenly he stopped and I could literally see a light going on for him.  He went up to the other little boy, grabbed his hat off his head and then ran the other way.

Mission accomplished... now he was being the chased instead of the chaser.

Moral of the story: sometimes our kids don't need other people to make modifications for them as they are completely capable of doing it themselves.

Have I mentioned how much I love this boy lately?

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Two Cent Tuesday: Why Have I Choosen a Self-Contained Setting for Mikey?

I notice that I often get people coming to this blog after doing a search related to the benefits of putting a child with Down syndrome in a self-contained educational setting.  I believe decisions about a child's education should be made on a case-by-case basis and would never want to hoist what works for us on others.  At the same time, given the number of people who come here through those search terms, I thought that I might take a few minutes to explain why Mikey is in a self-contained setting and how this setting works for him.

Mikey attended "regular" preschool, kindergarten and grade 1 classes.  He attended grade 1 twice at two different schools after he had quite a disasterous year in a school that had previously worked okay for him.  I then moved him to a new school that seemed to have more resources and therapy availability as well as a much more open and experienced grade 1 teacher.  He did great in this setting and we were able to turn much of the damage done to him in the previous year around.

As that year came to an end, we had to make a decision as to where he would go from there.  I knew he would remain in the school he was in as it was great for him.  The only decision to be made was if he would be in the "Learning Assistance Program" or with the grade 2s all day. 

The "Learning Assistance Program" at this school is for students who range in age from grade 1 through 5 and have what would be classified as "mild/moderate disabilities".  The program is set up such that students do mathematics, language arts and life skills in this classroom and then join their peer group for the rest of the time.  Everyone in the room staggers in and out as different students are in different grades so seldomly are all students in the self-contained setting.  There are between 10 and 15 students in the classroom each year and each student works on academics that are taylored to where they are at.  For all "extras" the LAP students are part of their regular classes - so for field trips and lunch and assemblies and guest speakers and concerts and intramurals...etc. these students are part of their grade and not part of the LAP class.  The LAP teacher oversees the student's IPP.  Student report cards have marks from both the LAP and general education rooms.  

Much of what is being done in the LAP room could also be done in the classroom so I had a decision to make.  I know this school would have worked hard to make either path work for Mikey so I was fortunate in that I didn't have that to factor in to my final decision.  It is unfortunate that there are still so many school divisions that push so hard for this setting that parents are left feeling like the school will not work at making their child's education successful if they ask for something other than what they are pushing.

Ultimately, the decision for me came down to numbers and teacher training/background.  In the LAP setting, Mikey would have a teacher who studied special education setting up his program.  This teacher would have experience with a variety of alternate programs that may work for Mikey and I felt we would be able to find them quicker.  I knew Mikey would need modifications throughout and I also knew that Mikey doesn't bounce back quickly from "mistakes" or "trying something to see how it goes".  The other bonus for Mikey was that he would be in a smaller group when working on core academics.  Because he is so easily distracted this was great!  As well, I knew the curriculum would be streamlined to ensure that ample time was spent on important concepts and the ones that were not as important wouldn't take up valuable learning time. 

With all that in mind, it was still extremely important to me that Mikey was socially integrated and that he was being set up to live a life of integration in our community.  So I took a look at how the students in this setting were treated by the others in the school and it became evident to me that they were very much a part of their peer groups.  From our experience so far, I'm finding that Mikey is more "included" in the true sense of the word in this setting than he was when he was sitting in the classroom doing work that others knew was different from theirs.  When he is with his peers, he is doing what his peers are doing (or close enough that he and others don't see the difference). 

The other issue that has been ongoing with Mikey is behaviour related.  This setting has ensured that his behaviours have decreased as well as for very few behaviours to happen when he is "integrated".  He will at times still get frustrated with his core academics but then he is not putting on a show for all his peers to talk about later.  It is a win-win for him.

The reality is though that not every school will set up a self-contained classroom the way this one has been set up and I may not have made the same choice had the program been run differnetly.  I may not have made the same choice if Mikey was different from what he is.  I do know that right now I feel that I've made the right choice given the school we are in and who Mikey and the teachers and students are.

Monday, May 18, 2009

Monday Madness: My Plans for the Upcoming Week :)

Monday, May 18

  • Its a holiday so no work for me and no school for Mikey :).  We are planning to just hang out together today.  If the weather holds up we might head out to Echodale (a little man made beach near here) for a while in the late morning/early afternoon.
  • Finish getting things ready for school this week - the theme for the newspaper our class is using this week is related to the International Space Station. We will be making astronaut food and doing other activities related to space.

Tuesday, May 19

  • Mikey will be with Glenda for swimming after school which gives me three hous to do some school work and/or errands.  Its going to be nice to have this time back but right now I have no plans for the time.  Will have to see what needs to be done by then.

Wednesday, May 20

  • Crazy day in my classroom as it is a therapy day.  OT is doing last visit of the year.  PT and equipment store worker coming to and bringing along the new walker for one of my students.  Its a great walker and when we trialed it this student was so excited so can't wait to get to using it with him.
  • Mikey has Beavers in the evening.  They will be playing baseball outside.  Hopefully the weather cooperates.

Thursday, May 21

  • Nothing planned for this day.  It will be nice to have a bit calmer day ;).

Friday, May 22

  • Another crazy day at school.  We have mass in the morning at the church.  This is a big event for us as field trips with our population take some planning.  Upon returning from mass, we have a family lunch out on the grass.  Several of our parents are coming to this so that will be fun for the kids :).
  • My friend Stacy and her daughter are coming for a visit Friday evening.  It will be nice to visit with them.

Saturday, May 23

  • Mikey has gymnastics and I have run around time.  I'm hoping to get an appointment to put some new color in my hair as I currently have about 1.5 inches of roots showing in my current 'do'.
  • A few of the people in the condo complex that I live in are holding a garage sale on Friday and Saturday.  I am thinking that I have a few things piling up and I will set up some of my own tables with those things for the day on Saturday as long as the weather is decent. 

Sunday, May 24

  • Will be heading out to Bow Island to spend some time with my mom and dad.  It will have been a ocuple of weeks since we seen them by now as they are away visiting my brother, his wife and their kids right now.

Sunday, May 17, 2009

Sentimental Sunday: More Commentary on "Life Goes On"

I finished watching the first season of "Life Goes On" yesterday night.  I really wish that the other seasons were out as I would love to see it all again.  Perhaps someday...

I had a few thoughts while watching the show but was most touched by the show with the dancing teacher who was getting old and had to be put in a care facility to ensure her safety.  Upon getting there, she was made to do all these childish activiies.  Corky questioned it and wondered why she couldn't do what she loved and teach a dance class at this center rather than playing simon says and bingo.

And although this is a show about the elderly, it made me imagine a utopic world wehre all people were allowed self-determination.  I had a meeting with one of my students, her parents and a representative from PDD the other day.  PDD is our government agency that oversees funding for supports that an adult with a complex disability may need.  This lady talked about how once this student was part of an adult program it was important to find and explore the things that she enjoyed doing and to allow her these choices.  I was thrilled to see that there were people in the handing-out-of-money positions who believed in what should be everyone's right: self-determination.

Transitioning three of my students out of my program this year made me realize that I need to do more within my program to expose my students to a variety of activities and placements that will assist in making the transition to adulthood and self-determination easier.  This is where my dream of working in more of a community exploration program for my class is coming from. 

I wish I could put in words the world that I envisioned as Corky asked why this lady couldn't just teach at dance class at the facility that she lived in.  It is not a bold or complex statement and yet one that we stumble across all the time.  We think that the structures that are in place in facilities are the ones that will remain in place and we need to make people fit in to them (or fit in to them ourselves).  Yet, we all have the power to change the world.. to share our talents and gifts and change the structure of what we belong to.  Wouldn't it be a wonderful world if we all remembered this type of flexibility and let organizations/facilities be structured by the very people that make them up?

Saturday, May 16, 2009

Silly Saturday: Mikey and the Green Power Light :)

I have been reading a lot about "chains" lately.  These little procedures that children start to think must occur in a certian way whenever they happen.  If the chain is not followed, its frustrating at the least and can result in a full-blown melt-down at the worst.  Most of what I've been reading is related to autism but it still fits when it comes to Mikey and I've been thinking a lot about this and trying to allow for it as well as slowly change some of the chains that have become issues for us.

There are times though when you see certain chains that make you giggle a bit.  For example, this past week, Mikey went to watch the TV downstairs and for some reason the little green light that is right by the power button wasn't working (nor is the red one when you turn it off so it must be burnt out in general).  So Mikey went through his whole chain of getting out a movie, putting it in the DVD player, getting the TV on and setting everything up for where he was going to sit (after putting his drink over on the other side of the room where it apparently belongs).  Then he sat down and realized that little green light wasn't on.  So he turned it off, went through the whole process again and still no green light!  For the next hour he had to inform me that the light was broke and never once would he actually sit down and watch his movie.  Fortunately the next day the light had been knocked out of the chain and he is once again enjoying the TV down there even if the light isn't working ;).

Friday, May 15, 2009

Falling Off Friday: Time to Refocus!

This week has been horrible.  I'm not even going to step on the scale this morning :(.  At the same time, I'm not giving up.  I'm just going to refocus and set my goals for this upcoming week.  So here they are:

  • Get on treadmill every day this week.  I now have old seasons of Survivor as well as my Life Goes on DVDs that I can watch while I'm on the treadmill.  I have to decided to set a time to do and just do it :).
  • Do something active with Mikey and/or my students every day (play at the park, go for a walk, go for a swim...etc.)
  • Get back to drinking only water every day.  I have slipped with diet coke quite a bit this week and I really want to eliminate it from my diet all together as it serves no purpose.
  • Start tracking what I'm eating again.  Try to stay within the ranges set by Sparks People.
  • Get back to making daily entries over at the Sparks People site.

I'm still looking to do this and do it right.  I need to refocus and know that I can do it.  Hopefully next week I will be feeling like stepping on the scale and I can report a weight loss here :).

About the Title "Red Lights"


  • So many times in this journey of life, I have been frustrated as the light has turned red and I've been forced to stop and wait. As time has gone on, I've come to realize that it is the time spent waiting at these lights that makes up the very essence of what life is supposed to be about!

    Mikey had just had his first birthday and we were on our way to Kindermusik class in the car. It had been a busy day with me at work and him at his dayhome all day. We had shared a quick supper and then gotten in the car to drive to his class. When we hit a red light, I turned to check that he was doing okay in his car seat and his face instantly lit up and his little fingers came together to make the motion used when the spider climbs up the spout in the "Itsy-Bitsy Spider". I took his cue and began singing and acting out the song with him and was all too soon interupted by the driver behind me honking his horn to get me to respond to the light that had turned green. As I began pulling forward I had a flashback to a time before Mikey when a red light would have frustrated me simply because of the "wasted time" that took place while trying to get somewhere. The moment and thoughts became frozen in my heart and soul and mind as I knew there was a lesson much larger in it all then just what was on the surface. And so it began...

About Us


  • I am Monica, single adoptive mommy to 10 year old Mikey who happens to have trisomy 21 (aka Down syndrome). I am currently hoping to add one more to our family through adoption sometime in the next little while (fingers crossed). I teach in a self-contained special education classroom in a small city in southern Alberta. Life is busy, full and wonderful! I have a dream to someday be a published author. One of the books that I would like to publish is a book of the lessons I've learned since I've become a mother. My blog "Red Lights" is meant to be a place for me to begin to organize the thoughts that I would like to someday put in this book as well as a place for me to just post about my day to day life!

    I welcome your comments and/or responses to any of the things that I've written. Feel free to use the comment links that follow each of my posts. I would love to know who is all lurking out there!



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